My Mister aka My Ahjussi
나의 아저씨
tvN (2018) 16 Episodes
Melodrama, Grade: A
Korean Drama Review by Jill, USA

Just a warning about end spoilers before I start. I hardly ever give those away in my reviews of Korean dramas, allowing you to discover them for yourselves. However, in this case there is no way I can explain why this otherwise excellent and addictive Korean melodrama My Mister aka My Ahjussi (2018) ended up receiving an A grade instead of an A+ grade from me unless I refer to the ending of this drama, which I felt was one of those "open endings" that I dislike so much, that offer no real closure for characters (or the audience for that matter!).

I usually don't mind either happy or sad endings, but the open ending ones that leave loose ends unfulfilled drive me up the wall because an excellent writer should be able to write a 16 episode drama without leaving any guesswork for the audience to struggle with at the conclusion of the story. Otherwise the entire drama ends up being not much more than one giant tease. You expect certain characters to come together ... and then they don't. All the great writers throughout history have written us satisfying, conclusive endings with our main questions answered: why on earth do Korean drama writers keep falling for that old tired stupid plot device of leaving endings open, ostensibly for sequels that 9 times out of 10 never come? They really need to stop doing this!

I also can't stand those "1 Year Later" jump endings that SO MANY K-dramas suffer from. My Mister suffered from this tired old plot device ending as well. I feel they gyp the audience out of important information on the emotional growth of the characters by skipping a year or more and ignoring that time period of incredible growth. Perhaps newbies to Korean dramas don't quite understand what they are seeing with these types of endings but we who have watched hundreds of them see the laziness involved with this kind of writing. I want Korean drama writers to have MORE COURAGE. Give us conclusive endings, not namby pamby open ones! Can you imagine if Jane Austen, for example, didn't let us know at the end of her brilliant novels who ended up with whom romantically? Don't be afraid to shatter stereotypes, Korea. This writer gave in to them. What could have been one of the best K-dramas I've ever watched fizzled out and disappointed me by the end. Especially since this drama aired on "Contents Trend Leader" tvN I expected more bravery in their drama's conclusion.

When the drama first started I heard the voices of young people watching this drama online complaining, "He's too old for her! Ew!!!!!" and I just rolled my eyes at these immature responses. (They were very much like the immature responses at the beginning of Goblin when they saw the age disparity between Gong Yoo and Kim Go Eun). Why is love a matter of age? We have many Korean dramas that don't hesitate to show physical relationships in "Noona Romances" (Older Women, Younger Men stories), so why then does it suddenly matter when the male lead character is a decade or more older than the female character? Why did the writer cave in here and not show anything when it was obvious they both had strong feelings for one another? Why show the lead male character not even asking for the lead female's phone number at the end, but rather have the younger lead female say "I'll call you" instead? Where was the backbone of this male character who was so proud of himself for helping to save this girl's life from ruin? We are led to believe he had a spine throughout the drama, acting courageously many times, but suddenly at the end his spine turns to jelly and he walks away with an annoying grin of self-satisfaction on his face? Did he ever stop to consider that SHE was the one who decided to stop running and to change her life around for the better? He might have inspired her, but she was the one who did all the hard work of improving her lot in life. Enough with the paternalistic nonsense in Korean drama scripts!

The Vocal OST
My Fav Song is One Million Roses

The Instrumental OST
My Favorite Piece is Trap

The Story

Park Dong Hoon (Lee Sun Kyun from Pasta) is a well paid building engineer around forty years of age, married to pretty lawyer Yoon Hee (Lee Ji Ah from Beethoven Virus). They have one young son whom they sent to America to school to learn English, and he is younger than ten years old (I didn't understand that for beans!). Usually when a couple is married and in love and have a baby they want to raise it themselves, not send it half-way around the world to school! This together with the fact that there is never any physical relationship depicted between husband and wife, not even a hug, makes one doubt that any love really exists between this married couple.

Dong Hoon's wife is secretly having an affair with a senior executive at the construction company where Dong Hoon works, an executive who has always been jealous of Dong Hoon's professional capabilities and talents. Yoon Hee tells her lover that she wants to divorce Dong Hoon and marry the executive, who is named Do Joon Young (Kim Young Min, also from Beethoven Virus), but it's obvious to the astute audience members that this adulterous bum has no interest in ever marrying her. He's just using her to get back at Dong Hoon for earning more respect at work than he has attained.

A Beethoven Virus 10 Year Reunion of Cast Members
Lee Ji Ah and Kim Young Min

Dong Hoon is a member of a close knit family who all live in the same city neighborhood, including two brothers and his aging mother Byeon Yo Soon (Ko Doo Shim from Dear My Friends and The Snow Queen) who still live together. The oldest brother, Sang Hoon (Park Ho San) is chronically unemployed and separated from his long-suffering wife Ae Ryun (Jung Young Joo). Gi Hoon (Song Sae Byeok) is the youngest brother who also has troubles finding work after he blew a chance to become a movie director. These two brothers decide to start a cleaning company to make money and at first they are embarrassed by their work but then they begin to succeed at it and feel more comfortable admitting what they do for a living. If you have to clean for a living at least do it well! Gi Hoon has had unresolved feelings for a young lady who used to be an actress he directed years ago, named Yoo Ra (Nara), and they meet up again when she is still struggling as an actress and it's obvious an attraction is still there between them. He rebuffs her at first but you just know that won't last long -- she's far too pretty!

Dong Hoon and His Fun To Watch Brothers

Dong Hoon hires a temp in his office named Lee Ji An (IU from Dream High and Producer) who lives in financial and emotional distress daily, owing loan sharks a lot of money. She supports her disabled deaf and mute grandmother Bon Ae (Son Sook) who is unable to move by herself so Ji An often has to steal a grocery cart temporarily from a convenience store to wheel her around in it when she wants to go outside. Ji An is continuously harassed by a loan shark named Gwang Il (Chang Ki Yong) who obviously also has the hots for her. He regularly shows up at her apartment door and beats her up because she won't give in to him sexually.

I.U. Who Is Probably Going To Get All Kinds
Of Acting Awards For This Performance

One day, she sees Dong Hoon receive 50 million won ($50,000) of gift certificates by secret courier. She goes back to the office late at night and takes the gift certificates from Dong Hoon's desk. She tries to pay off her debts with the gift certificates, but her plan backfires on her and gets her in more trouble down the line, at work, and with Dong Hoon.

Ji An is privately hired by Joon Young at the company to spy on Dong Hoon; she surreptitiously installs a bug on his phone and can listen in to everything he does, at work and at home. Joon Young pays her a lot of money to do this work, which she hands over to the loan shark, but the loan shark still seems obsessed with her anyway; apparently they had known each other in childhood and when his father tried to attack Ji An's grandmother Ji An had killed his father. He has never forgiven her, even though the court ruled that what she did was necessary to save her grandmother's life. 

An unintended consequence of listening in on Dong Hoon's activities day and night is that Ji An starts to fall in love with him, against her better judgment, knowing he is married and not really a "My Mister" after all. She hasn't run into too many good men in her life. However she still is desperate to free herself from the debts and get the loan shark off her back, so she goes to Joon Young and offers to make Dong Hoon leave the company by creating a scandal around him if he will pay her enough to pay off her debts.The evil Joon Young agrees. Will Dong Hoon ever figure out Ji An's real end game? If so will he be able to forgive her and look beyond her bad deeds to encourage her to live a better, more wholesome life?

Despite everything going on Dong Hoon still cares about Ji An, and even assists her in getting her grandmother in a senior living situation that is government run so she doesn't have to worry about her ailing grandmother's physical needs anymore. Granny isn't quite sure what is going on with Ji An and Dong Hoon but to her he is an angel. Ji An falls even more deeply in love with him, yet still seems to be carrying out her plan to destroy him at work! Talk about a troubled girl. All this time I kept hoping she would end up acting like a double agent and destroy the wicked Joon Young instead.

In addition to the trials and tribulations of the main characters this drama really benefits in its casting of the side characters. All are fascinating to watch in their own right. My own particular favorite to watch was the female neighborhood bar owner Jung Hee (Oh Na Ra) whom I also believed to be the most stunning looking cast member in the entire drama. All the neighborhood friends including Dong Hoon and his brothers and their soccer team friends meet in the bar at night and Jung Hee loves to serve them all beer and food. She's like a sister to all of them ... but at night she cries herself to sleep out of loneliness. That broke my heart.

Totally Beautiful Eyes On Oh Na Ra

She had her own sad love life: the man she was married to years earlier had left their marriage to become a Buddhist monk! Ooh, I was not too fond of that guy for breaking her heart! Why would God approve of a man cruelly leaving his wife to go live in a temple for the rest of his life? There's no excuse for unkindness. That's NOT "godly" at all. (It didn't help matters that that same actor Park Hae Joon played the murderous bad guy in Doctor Stranger! LOL!). There was not one moment during the entire drama that I warmed to him; even when they tried to show one near the end I wasn't buying it.

As we near the end of the story there are lots of surprises in store for the audience. Those who are hoping for Dong Hoon to finally wake up and realize how fake his marriage is, how it's been empty for years, how he really loves Ji An instead of his wife, are going to be disappointed. In so many ways the lead male character Dong Hoon is admirable, but in many other ways he seems totally clueless about life and love. Often I just wanted to shake him out of his daze, so that he would start making good choices about his life, work, marriage, and feelings for Ji An. There was even a scene near the end where he just breaks down at home all alone and doesn't even seem to understand why he is crying in the first place. You should have seen my face at that moment. Instead of pitying him I got angry. "You clueless dolt!" I raged. LOL!

Is a man REALLY noble if he keeps breaking the hearts of those around him, even if unintentionally? He isn't some teenager, he's 40, he should know that happiness is not possible UNLESS you make the hard decisions in life to do what is right for yourself and others. Just coasting through life afraid to make decisions, letting others make them for you, is just frustrating to any decent woman, and at the end Ji An has become decent and hard-working and probably would have plenty of other suitors soon enough .... but then she has to run into Dong Hoon again. Of course.

A is still a great grade for this drama, and you should still watch it because it is better than a good majority of Korean dramas overall. There are many fun characters to grow close to and good themes of friendship, family, reformation, and affection are explored. I'm still glad I watched it despite being frustrated by its ending. Hey, I might even upgrade it to an A+ someday IF they have the smarts to do a sequel and show a developing romantic relationship between the two leads. Check it out and see what you think. You may not have the same reactions I did. We're all different.






Can you believe the first entertainment agency I.U. auditioned for
turned her down??? Can you spell "El Stupido"? LOL!